I'm sorry I have not been around for a while. I've been trying to put my situation out of my mind. I'm a bit stressed out and I find that writing it down helps, so here we go.....
After considering my options, discussing it with my lawyers and my Rav, I had decided to go on the offensive. This was to include motions in both the lower and upper court for contempt, a Hazmanah to an established Bais Din and working with one of the "get" organizations that offered to help me. My upper court lawyer had his motion done and was ready to go.
This was at the end of November.
Then....
I received a call from my Toein (advocate) telling me that "Religious ex" has a new Dayan. Again. For the 4th time in 12 months. No explanations as usual. Toein tells me that Dayan 4 is pushing for the Din Torah to happen. She also now has a Toein. He is also pushing for a Din Torah.
Of course I wonder why she is suddenly so interested in going to a Din Torah. I'm fairly certain that it is not due to an the incredible urge to do the right thing.
We had a date for the end of January but that did not pan out because of a schedule conflict with "New Shlish" and "My Toein".
All the Dayanim and Toanim have agreed on two dates for the end of March.
In the mean time, it is now almost three years since I've seen my daughter, I'm told that she wants to go to Israel for her seminary year. It's been almost two years since I've seen my boys, I am told they are doing OK. I miss them. It stresses me out to no end.
For some reason I'm feeling optimistic that the end of March will happen. I hope that I'm not let down again.
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- Gave A Get
- I am a divorced man questioning the wisdom of giving a "get" with no strings attached. over 6 YEARS after giving a Get and hundreds of thousand of dollars in legal, Bais Din and other costs, I finally have a divorce
The Players - Update 12/2009
1. Religious Ex - The woman I was married to for 15 years and have 3 children with. She has a Get for over 5 1/2 years.
2. Dayan 1 - The first Dayan appointed by Religious Ex after ordered to by the Court, I'm not sure he ever existed.
3. Dayan 2 - The second Daya appointed by Religious Ex. He lives out of town. He's been replaced.
4. Dayan 3. The new Dayan representing Religious Ex. He's been replaced.
5. Mutual Friend - Has spend 4 months trying to negotiate a deal ( the 6th person to try) and got frustrated (like the rest) with Religious Ex
6. My Rav - The Dayan representing me
7. My 3 Children - that I did not see for 2+ years. I gave up custody after a protracted battle in which they were used as pawns by "religious ex" for money. Two of them are now coming to visit. This makes me happy!
8. The Court - Two Levels of the court system in the state that I live.
9. The Shlish - the neutral Dayan that has been agreed upon by our Dayanim. He's been replaced.
2. Dayan 1 - The first Dayan appointed by Religious Ex after ordered to by the Court, I'm not sure he ever existed.
3. Dayan 2 - The second Daya appointed by Religious Ex. He lives out of town. He's been replaced.
4. Dayan 3. The new Dayan representing Religious Ex. He's been replaced.
5. Mutual Friend - Has spend 4 months trying to negotiate a deal ( the 6th person to try) and got frustrated (like the rest) with Religious Ex
6. My Rav - The Dayan representing me
7. My 3 Children - that I did not see for 2+ years. I gave up custody after a protracted battle in which they were used as pawns by "religious ex" for money. Two of them are now coming to visit. This makes me happy!
8. The Court - Two Levels of the court system in the state that I live.
9. The Shlish - the neutral Dayan that has been agreed upon by our Dayanim. He's been replaced.
10. Dayan 4. "Religious Ex's" latest Borer. He worked hard for her and got her more than a simple reading of the halacha would suggest.
11. New Shlish. The neutral Dayan agreed upon by Dayan 4 and My Rav.
12. Chaya Gitty Rosenberg, who is close to "Religious Ex". Very supportive of her court actions. A real hypocrite.
13. The Askan. A Gentleman from the community where Religious-Ex grew up. He is the only person who she is willing to listen to. Has done incredible job getting 2 kids to talk to me.
14. Askan-2. A very holy man who has been involved with this case since day 1.
12. Chaya Gitty Rosenberg, who is close to "Religious Ex". Very supportive of her court actions. A real hypocrite.
13. The Askan. A Gentleman from the community where Religious-Ex grew up. He is the only person who she is willing to listen to. Has done incredible job getting 2 kids to talk to me.
14. Askan-2. A very holy man who has been involved with this case since day 1.
3 comments:
How the hell is this possible? am I missing something? Just drag her to a real court, the kind that can send men with guns if you ignore them. What's the problem???
I agree. If your late March date doesn't happen, just go to court and to hell with the batei dinim. They have no real power are just causing your life to be miserable for too long a time. No one deserves to suffer like this.
Don't be afraid of people pressuring you to stay out of court. Just go and don't listen to them. The halacha is the law of the land is the law and it must be followed. If anyone here is causing a chilul Hashem, or will be causing one by ending up back in court, it's your "religious" ex.
Good luck...
Well said.
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