There is much conversation in the frum community about men who will not give a "Get" and the plight of Agunahs.
I am here to discuss the other side of the story.
While I am sure that there are many instances of men using a "Get" as a financial weapon, I sit here typing and wondering if they are not smarter than I.
I gave a Get before Pesach 2004 without any financial strings attached.
After proceeding to offer a settlement which the Dayanim thought was insane on my part, the negotiations fell apart and a Psak was to be issued. My "religious ex" proceeded to ignore the rulings of the Bais Din, walked out and went to court.
This was 3 1/2 years ago.
I'd like my life back. I'd like my money back. I'd like a Civil Divorce. I'd love to see my children.
Let's talk about this. I am looking for help.
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About Me
- Gave A Get
- I am a divorced man questioning the wisdom of giving a "get" with no strings attached. over 6 YEARS after giving a Get and hundreds of thousand of dollars in legal, Bais Din and other costs, I finally have a divorce
The Players - Update 12/2009
1. Religious Ex - The woman I was married to for 15 years and have 3 children with. She has a Get for over 5 1/2 years.
2. Dayan 1 - The first Dayan appointed by Religious Ex after ordered to by the Court, I'm not sure he ever existed.
3. Dayan 2 - The second Daya appointed by Religious Ex. He lives out of town. He's been replaced.
4. Dayan 3. The new Dayan representing Religious Ex. He's been replaced.
5. Mutual Friend - Has spend 4 months trying to negotiate a deal ( the 6th person to try) and got frustrated (like the rest) with Religious Ex
6. My Rav - The Dayan representing me
7. My 3 Children - that I did not see for 2+ years. I gave up custody after a protracted battle in which they were used as pawns by "religious ex" for money. Two of them are now coming to visit. This makes me happy!
8. The Court - Two Levels of the court system in the state that I live.
9. The Shlish - the neutral Dayan that has been agreed upon by our Dayanim. He's been replaced.
2. Dayan 1 - The first Dayan appointed by Religious Ex after ordered to by the Court, I'm not sure he ever existed.
3. Dayan 2 - The second Daya appointed by Religious Ex. He lives out of town. He's been replaced.
4. Dayan 3. The new Dayan representing Religious Ex. He's been replaced.
5. Mutual Friend - Has spend 4 months trying to negotiate a deal ( the 6th person to try) and got frustrated (like the rest) with Religious Ex
6. My Rav - The Dayan representing me
7. My 3 Children - that I did not see for 2+ years. I gave up custody after a protracted battle in which they were used as pawns by "religious ex" for money. Two of them are now coming to visit. This makes me happy!
8. The Court - Two Levels of the court system in the state that I live.
9. The Shlish - the neutral Dayan that has been agreed upon by our Dayanim. He's been replaced.
10. Dayan 4. "Religious Ex's" latest Borer. He worked hard for her and got her more than a simple reading of the halacha would suggest.
11. New Shlish. The neutral Dayan agreed upon by Dayan 4 and My Rav.
12. Chaya Gitty Rosenberg, who is close to "Religious Ex". Very supportive of her court actions. A real hypocrite.
13. The Askan. A Gentleman from the community where Religious-Ex grew up. He is the only person who she is willing to listen to. Has done incredible job getting 2 kids to talk to me.
14. Askan-2. A very holy man who has been involved with this case since day 1.
12. Chaya Gitty Rosenberg, who is close to "Religious Ex". Very supportive of her court actions. A real hypocrite.
13. The Askan. A Gentleman from the community where Religious-Ex grew up. He is the only person who she is willing to listen to. Has done incredible job getting 2 kids to talk to me.
14. Askan-2. A very holy man who has been involved with this case since day 1.
2 comments:
You need to provide a lot more information here, before anybody can understand what you are talking about.
I gave a Get before Pesach 2004 without any financial strings attached.
After proceeding to offer a settlement which the Dayanim thought was insane on my part, the negotiations fell apart...
Does this mean that you gave the get prior to offering the settlement?
...and a Psak was to be issued.
You say "to be issued". Does this mean that the psak was not, in fact, issued?
My "religious ex" proceeded to ignore the rulings of the Bais Din...
What rulings did she ignore? You implied above that no psak was issued.
...walked out and went to court.
Do you mean that she sued for divorce in a civil court?
I'd like my life back.
What are you referring to?
I'd like my money back.
What money are you talking about? You didn't mention anything about this earlier.
I'd like a Civil Divorce.
You implied above that your wife sued for divorce in a civil court. If she has not done this, then what is preventing you from doing so?
I'd love to see my children.
Why can't you see them?
Your post is extremely confusing, because you have hardly told us anything about what transpired.
Let's talk about this. I am looking for help.
You need to first explain what happened.
In every divorce there are three stories, his , hers and the truth.
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